There is a saying here in the Balkans that we hear often: “You cannot really know someone until you have eaten a kilo of salt together.”

That’s a lot of salt! (More than two pounds, for you American readers.)

Unless you habitually use the whole shaker on one meal, it would take a lifetime to eat that much salt. And that’s the point, of course: To truly know someone, you must eat together, spend time together, live life together.

But what does that look like? Here’s an example.

We had known Shoku and his family for several years; our families visited often and we had built a strong friendship. We were deeply saddened when they moved to another country, but, fortunately, we were able to visit them even in their new home.

Several times over the years of our friendship, we had talked about bits and pieces of our faith — usually over a meal. After our most recent visit with Shoku, I felt that we had reached the point in our friendship where we had eaten that kilo of salt together. I knew I needed to make sure Shoku heard the full truth of the gospel. Feeling a sense of urgency, I sat down and began to write an e-mail that explained in detail who Jesus is and what that meant for Shoku.

It began, “I know that we have not always talked a lot about matters of faith, but because of our love for you and your family, I want to share something important with you….”

I checked my computer daily, but there was no response from Shoku. I wondered if I had been too bold in writing the way I had; perhaps we hadn’t eaten as much salt together as I thought we had?

Finally, Shoku wrote back. “I’m sorry that I could not write sooner, but all the family is working or going to school and we are all very busy. Finally, I was able to get the whole family together and I read them your e-mail.”

I couldn’t believe it! Because of the love we had built for one another over the years, Shoku and his family took time to come together and really consider what I had to say.

The family has not believed in Jesus yet, but they have heard … and they have really listened.

We will continue our friendship, and we will keep praying!

—Mitchell and Tracy make disciples in the Balkans. 

Italicized names were changed to protect identity.