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Love: An Invitation to Relationship
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Disciple-making is all about relationships, relationships are all about love, and love is what marks us as Jesus’ disciples. In John 15:12-14, Jesus commands us to love. He parallels our obedience with our love (not just following do’s and don’ts), and warns us about cost: our very lives.
A Working Description
Love is given through those attitudes, words and actions that invite relationship — taking the initiative and moving toward the undeserving for their well-being.
Our example: God took the initiative, moved toward us, and invited us to relationship with Himself.
Initiative | Love drives someone to begin the pursuit. The obvious challenge comes when we view others as undeserving of love because of a real offense, a bothersome annoyance and/or the prospect of receiving nothing in return. In other words, when we are not treated as we desire to be.
Movement | Pursuit in love always involves moving relationally — opening our heart to another — and sometimes physically — picking up a telephone, walking across the street, or moving across a cultural divide.
Relationship | Love initiates and moves with the goal of relationship. Love is more than being nice, patient, or kind to someone who doesn’t deserve it; it is inviting another into relationship as God invited us.
A disciple of Jesus is marked by love, which is an invitation to relationship. So what does a disciple do? He invites people to relationship. With whom? With God and him/herself. With this definition, we see immediately that a disciple makes disciples. The nature of love requires it.
However, we are not always aware of this because the motives and desires of our heart are often hidden (James 4). We simply see the result: tensions and distance in our relationships (best case) or destruction of relationships (worst case).
Disciple-making is all about relationships, relationships are all about love, and love is what marks us as Jesus’ disciples. In John 15:12-14, Jesus commands us to love. He parallels our obedience with our love (not just following do’s and don’ts), and warns us about cost: our very lives.
A Working Description
Love is given through those attitudes, words and actions that invite relationship — taking the initiative and moving toward the undeserving for their well-being.Our example: God took the initiative, moved toward us, and invited us to relationship with Himself.
Initiative | Love drives someone to begin the pursuit. The obvious challenge comes when we view others as undeserving of love because of a real offense, a bothersome annoyance and/or the prospect of receiving nothing in return. In other words, when we are not treated as we desire to be.
Movement | Pursuit in love always involves moving relationally — opening our heart to another — and sometimes physically — picking up a telephone, walking across the street, or moving across a cultural divide.
Relationship | Love initiates and moves with the goal of relationship. Love is more than being nice, patient, or kind to someone who doesn’t deserve it; it is inviting another into relationship as God invited us.
A disciple of Jesus is marked by love, which is an invitation to relationship. So what does a disciple do? He invites people to relationship. With whom? With God and him/herself. With this definition, we see immediately that a disciple makes disciples. The nature of love requires it.
The Obstacle to Love: Self-Protection
Most of the issues we deal with in life are relational — the difficulty of getting along with people and loving them in truth. What keeps us from moving toward others in relationship? We live in a fallen world where sin and evil are around us and in us. By nature, we seek to protect ourselves from the harm that inevitably comes through circumstances and relationships. Our pride and innate commitment to ourselves aim to keep a safe distance in our relationships, violating God’s desire for us to love others as a reflection of His sacrificial love for us.However, we are not always aware of this because the motives and desires of our heart are often hidden (James 4). We simply see the result: tensions and distance in our relationships (best case) or destruction of relationships (worst case).
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